Hi All!
Sorry I havent posted in a while. I got my wisdom teeth out last Thrusday and I certianly was not in good health to answer your advice. But now that Im all better I am back again to help make your life a little bit better each week! Next Wednesday I return to SRU for my Sophmore year! Just wanted to say I had an absolutely wonderful summer and I had so much fun with all my friends! Stay in touch you guys! Speaking of college, a friend I meet at college last year sent me this question:
Dear Joey,
I met this girl bout 3 years ago at a relay for life at 1 am, we both were walkin alone for our team and she happened to start talking to me. we ended up walking and talking until 11 am the next morning, never was there a dull moment that night with her it was amazing. Since then we have been friends but only sometimes did we talk. it seems as though everytime we both r single we end up talkin to eachother and sometimes messing around, never to the point of sexual activity but i personally dont need that at this point. she stayed the weekend with me last yr at school and the weekend was amazing but at the end i asked her out and she said she didnt feel that way for me (even tho the whole weekend we kissed and acted like a couple). after that she dated a guy which didnt work and now this summer she has talked to me again, we hung out one time and at the end she asked me y i didnt kiss her? i was confused by this since she said she didnt like me like that. this upcoming school yr she wants to come stay with me and me stay with her several times at our respective colleges. she says she wants to stay single but if we get close then its whatever happens happens u know?im just confused that she is ok with me and her acting like we r together but she doesnt want to date me, i guess the question in all of that is what shud i do? how shud i go bout this "relationship" or friendship? should i push for a relationship or just see what happens? any advice u can give wud be a big help. Thank you :)
Sincerely,
A 4th floor friend
Dear a 4th floor friend,
To start off, thank you for volunteering your time for Relay for Life! It is always important to get involved and help those around us so thank you! Sounds to me that you and this girl are practically best friends and knowing you, I know you would do anything for her. My advice for you my friend is to allow some time to pass before you try to go any further in your relationship. It sounds to me that she is confused about her feeling towards you. She loves you as a friend but is not sure about her feelings towards you as a boyfriend. Girls have complex emotions and sometimes they can make huge swings from one emotion to another. As guys, we have to understand it is not always easy for a girl to determine her emotions. As a young adult, she is in the middle of transforming from a young girl to a young miss and that process can be hectic. Just as for guys, they are turning from boys into young men. This being the case, our emotions can run haywire and make it difficult to form an opinion one way or another. I know me telling you to "just wait" may be an easy answer, but its the best one for your case. Sometimes the simpliest choice is the best. If you dont want to wait, then simply ask her if there is a possibility for you two in the future. If she says Yes, then you two can work on it. If she says I dont know, then ask her to give you a chance. If she says No, then say Okay and move on and still be good friends with her. Im still good freinds with all my ex crushes and it works out well. I wish the very best for you two and I hope it works out!
Your 4th floor buddy,
Joey S.
Hey Everyone! I hope you enjoyed this week's advice blog! If you need advice on anything, send me an email at raysofyellow@yahoo.com
To get involved for Relay for Life, check out their webpage at http://www.relayforlife.org/relay/
Advice to Live Well: "Compliment someone. Not only does it brighten their day, but draws your friendship closer"
I hope everyone's summer was wonderful and filled with success! To all my pals in "The Bubble" stay in touch and drop me an email every now and then. I love to hear from you!
Until next time, enjoy the summer while its here
Your Ray of Sunshine,
Joey S.
