Room for One More?

Dear Joey, I'm in a new relationship with a girl who i've known all through spring and summer. Everything is absolutely great but the only problem is she wants to date another guy too. I love her with all my heart and just wanna make her happy.  She wants to bring him on dates with both of us and have us be friends. idk what to do please help!

Thanks,
two guys and a girl

Dear Two Guys and a Girl,

Allow me to introduce some French to you: Ménage à trois. In others words,  a three-way relationship in which all members are romantically involved with each other. Or basically, what Britney Spear's song "3" was all about =_= . However, I can tell you from what I've seen, those never work out. A three-way relationship is never a good idea. Ever. And here's why: When a guy enters a relationship with a girl, she becomes his girl. (And ladies, he becomes your man so its a two-way street) so a guy is very protective of his woman. He does not want anyone else hitting on his girl because that is his girl. If you've ever watched a movie with a bar scene, there is always a scene where one guy hits on this girl at a bar, and then some macho meat-head comes up and says "You hitting on my girl buddy?" Then usually a bar fight breaks out. So guys are really protective because guys actually care a lot about their girlfriends. I know it might be hard to believe ladies, but it is true. Trust me! With that being said, I can see you care a whole lot about this girl and will do anything for her but allowing her to do this is too far. And I dont have to be a mind reader but Im guessing you dont want this guy in your relationship. I dont think any guy would be okay with that. I know her happiness is important to you, but so is your's. In order for you both to be happy, you both need to find ways to be happy with just each other. No third wheel. You need to make an ultimatum-A final choice. She needs to pick you or him. I know you have probably been told this before but it is true. And you also need to search inside yourself and think "Can I really be in a relationship with a girl who doesn't love me as much as I do her?" Cause if she did, then you wouldnt have this problem. If you are worried she might leave you, let her know no one else cares about her and will treat her as greatly as you do. I know you don't want to, but sometimes ultimatums have to be made in order for a successful relationship. Get to know why she wants a third guy to join up. As my mother said "You can't have your cake and eat it too" Meaning she can't date two guys at the same time. Plus I dont think facebook allows for a "In a three way with" relationship option haha! I hope I was able to help out and let me know how things go. It is always nice to hear feedback on how my advice turned out. Thanks for writing and take care!

Your buddy,

Joey S.

Advice to Live Well: "Send a Hello text to a person you havent talked to in a while. Odds are, theyll be glad to hear from you"

To see Britney Spear's "3" video, click on the link : http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTs6oQx1WJY

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